The Control Book - Consolidating control
The following is an extract from The Control Book by Peter Masters, pp. 59 - 64:
In the short term, there comes a phase of consolidation or "bedding down" of the control. This consolidation consists of defining the boundaries of the control, of exploring and actually asserting control over the areas of behaviour which the dominant is interested in.
Let's consider the case where your initial control-taking action over your submissive was to direct them to stand up. Unless your particular perversion is very strange and you get your jollies just by making people stand up, you will be interested in more than this. And indeed, in most cases, you will get from your submissive much more control than this as part of the same transaction.
A seasoned submissive will typically give up a very large amount of control in response to the initial control-taking by a dominant. Indeed the control-taking action will be mostly symbolic in their case, taking large swathes of emotional, sexual and physical control over the submissive all at the one time.
Exactly what's included in this extra control will vary from submissive to submissive. It will depend on many factors, including their own conditioning and experience, their trust in you, how strongly they feel their need for control, etc.
An important thing to note is that this control is given to you as part of the initial transaction, but it still needs you to complete the process by actually recognising and asserting this control. For example, after directing your submissive to stand, you might then further tell them how you want them to stand, or tell them how you want them to address you. These subsequent acts build on or consolidate the initial transfer, and further define for both you and the submissive how, and over what, you want to assert control.
The idea of this period after the initial transfer serving to "bed down" the control transfer is very important. As well as being used by both you and your submissive as a time to get used to the idea of having taken or having given up control, respectively, it is also used by your submissive to learn and adjust to how they will be controlled---i.e. to your particular quirks---and by you to learn how your submissive reacts to being controlled. Note that this can be a time of stress or uncertainty.
Also note that we may not be talking here about conscious awareness of, or a conscious transfer, of control. All four steps of the transfer of control, and the consolidation, could be occurring subconsciously in you, in your submissive, or in you both.
For you, the dominant, consolidating and bedding down the control mainly consists of using the control, exploring the boundaries, recognising reactions and dealing with them. The main thing then, is to use the control in as wide a variety of ways as possible, and to watch what happens as a result. You and your submissive will use this to learn:
Both of you will be using this time of familiarisation to adapt to the new balance of control. Regularly debriefing your submissive during this can be a good way to get closer to how they are reacting and feeling.
Taking control by grabbing your submissive by the scruff of their neck and manhandling them to the floor doesn't mean that you have acquired control over their entire life. Taking control in such a primal manner might give you control over them physically or sexually, but it's much less likely that they'll then respond to your orders regarding their finances, their work, their family or their free time.
Once you have taken initial control then, how do you go about expanding this control into other areas of their life and being?
Well, once you have explored the control that they gave you as part of the initial transfer, and you've found its boundaries and you want more, then you will have to take more control. In other words you will have to go through another transfer-of-control process.
Consider the case where you are at a play party and you want to do something particularly perverted to an attractive submissive you meet there. You might say, "Come with me to the Comfy Chair", where you proceed to do horrid and unspeakable things to them. Afterwards, however, when you are unwinding from this job well done, you might want this submissive to go and get you a drink. The context is different however, and the control that you took initially, and which they gave up, and which allowed you to torture them, may not include having them serve you drinks. It's possible then, that you would have to separately take more control so that they will serve you.
However, your submissive is more likely to give up control to you when the new control is similar to control you already have. If you have just manhandled them to the floor, then they're likely to also respond to orders to stand, sit, kneel and other physical acts. On the other hand if you have just manhandled them to the floor, and then tell them to write an essay on Marcel Proust you might find yourself much less lucky.
Let's look at a possible progression of control-taking:
Each step in the above series builds on the previous step. Bedding down, or consolidating, each step is important; in other words you don't rush through the list in a matter of just minutes, instead you stop after each step, making sure both you and your submissive are settled, before moving on to the next step. This series doesn't cover all areas of control, of course, but it is a useful example to see how you can go from one area to another.
I have included both consolidation of control and expansion of control in this one section because I see them both as being part of the process of creating or exploring the boundaries of the control you have over your submissive. In some cases, too, it can be hard to tell if something is in fact consolidation rather than actually expansion.
The important thing that I'd like to get across in this section, is that there is an initial contact between a dominant and a submissive where the dominant begins to take control. This can be a matter of just an instant of time. This is followed by a much longer bedding down, and defining of the extent of the control.
Things to think about