Feeling guilty about doing BDSM

Psychology of BDSM

Psychology
of BDSM

Psychology
gateway

(all psychology articles)

Basics

Penetration

Engagement

Consent

Communication

Power

Authority

Control

Trust

Fetish

Defence mechanisms

Mapping motivations to activities

Roles
Top		Bottom
Dominant		Submissive
Master		Slave
Trainer		Trainee
Owner		Property
Mistress
Switch
SAM

Motivations (all motivation articles)

Ecstasy

Subspace

Catharsis

Surrender

Experiencing power

Hotter sex

Recreation

Expiation of guilt

Intimacy and bonding

Physiological outcomes

Chemical high

Unhealthy motivations

Just a bit of fun (not)

Pain (not)

Play versus "deep play" versus work

Transformation of pain into pleasure

The joy of being a top or dominant

Someone may feel guilt when they are involved in BDSM:

• Because they haven't told their partner about it and they feel they're doing it illicitly,
• Because their upbringing tells them that they're supposed to be tough and masculine and they find themselves crawling at the feet of a dominant,
• Because they have trouble reconciling hurting their partner with beliefs that they shouldn't hit or injure others, or
• Because they have to keep it hidden for some reason and feel bad about it.