How much should you carry?
How much of your past experience with BDSM partners should you carry with you into a new relationship? The reason I ask is that I think that it's difficult to find a balance between cynicism related to partners who didn't work out, and uncontrolled optimism related to partners who did.
Many aspects of BDSM have to do with experience, skill and practise. We could talk about the physical skill involved when executing a bondage or flogging scene or we could talk about the learned ability to surrender fully and these are things which we can usefully develop and carry with us in all our BDSM dealings...