The Control Book
The Control Book is about the fine art of taking control of your partner. It's about the processes involved, about taking control, using control, about ensuring that you have control, and---importantly---about giving control back once you are done with it.
The book discusses how this works---the psychology of it---and looks at what can go right, and at what can go wrong and how to fix it.
It considers the role of authority in the equation, and looks at how to manage the control you have over someone so that it is both effective and rewarding for you both.
In the table of contents below, some of the entries are highlighted. These are links to extracts of the book.
Table of contents
- 1. Introduction
- 1.1. What do you mean by dominance & submission?
- 1.2. Conscious, subconscious and unconscious
- 1.3. Predispositions
- 1.4. Evolution
- 2. Transfer of control
- 2.1. The process
- 2.2. Consolidating control
- 2.3. Losing control
- 2.4. Reward and encouragement
- 2.5. Giving back control
- 2.6. Focus of control
- 2.7. Safewords
- 2.8. Control-taking and privacy
- 3. Communication
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- 4. Management
- 4.1. Two different types of control
- 4.2. Planning and management
- 4.3. Ritual
- 4.4. Structure
- 4.5. Ownership
- 4.6. Delegation
- 5. Discussion topics
- 5.1. Closure
- 5.2. Magic
- 5.3. Satiation
- 5.4. Humour
- 5.5. Rhythm
- 5.6. Feeling controlled
- 5.7. Consequences of orders
- 5.8. Difference between a slave and a submissive
- 5.9. Cookbook dominance
- 5.10. Less than open
- 5.11. What place love?
- 5.12. Hard and soft limits
- 6. Footnotes
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