Look Into My Eyes - Introduction
|Look Into My Eyes
How To Use Hypnosis To Bring Out The Best In Your Sex Life
Author: Peter Masters
"Masters' approach to the topic is at times gentle and humorous and makes you comfortable with using it."
"... a step-by-step guidebook which teaches the individual how to use hypnosis to heighten arousal."
"One of the most valuable aspects of this book, in my opinion, is the copious inclusion of scripts."
(Extract from Look Into My Eyes, Chapter 1 - Introduction, pp. 1 - 3)
I want to start out with a few reassuring words. Hypnosis is not magical and it doesn’t require any special powers. No special crystals are needed, no piercing eyes, no drugs. It doesn’t leave you “weak-willed” and it doesn’t make you the helpless puppet of the person who hypnotised you. You cannot be hypnotised secretly.
The only things that you need to be able to hypnotise someone are practice and commitment. Maybe surprisingly, to be able to be hypnotised deeply you also need these same two things. Why? Because you have to learn to really focus your attention on the person who is hypnotising you, and you need to learn to relax your mind. Most people can be hypnotised to a greater or lesser degree; how much largely depends on experience, on how much you are prepared to relax and let go at the time, on your relationship with the person hypnotising you, and on their ability.
What I want to do in this book is to give you a good understanding of what hypnosis is - and also what it also isn’t - and show you how you can use it in your sex life. It is often said that the mind is the biggest erogenous zone, and I’m going to look at how you can use hypnosis to create and enhance fantasies, to enhance fun and sexy role-playing, to focus the mind for control of sexual responsiveness, and more.
This is not a therapy book. If you have an unhappy or broken sexual relationship then don’t expect this book to ﬁx it. It won’t. Don’t expect that you will learn anything about stage hypnosis or putting on shows - XXXX-rated or otherwise - with this book. You also won’t ﬁnd anything here that will tell you how to pick up members of the appropriate sex and get them to go to bed with you. If that’s what you’re after put this book away and go get a life.
Hypnosis is not for the weak-willed or weak-minded. The goal of this book is to show you how you can use hypnosis with your partner to create a stronger, more sexual relationship. I’ll show you how to use hypnosis to focus the strengths of your mind and your partner’s mind. The stronger your minds are, the better the result.
Hypnosis tends to stay somewhere in the public consciousness in a number of ways:
1. Advertisements: Stop smoking, lose weight.
- Using hypnosis to help someone stop smoking, or to give up some other “bad” habit, is a good example of what this focus that I was talking about can achieve. With a trained hypnotherapist someone can learn to focus their own strength of mind into the overcoming of a possibly strongly ingrained habit.
- Hypnosis is used to “tip the balance” when the person already wants to give up their habit. Hypnotherapy gives the desire that little extra bit of ooomph.
2. Movies: evildoer coerces victim to perform dastardly deeds.
- This is one of the things that gives hypnosis a bad reputation. In reality it would take a serious long-term program of brain-washing - not just hypnosis, but drugs and psychological abuse - to get someone who is not normally criminally inclined to become a criminal.
- Hypnosis doesn’t change someone’s fundamental nature. It’s an individual’s upbringing and the major events in the lives that shape them. Hypnosis can only reveal what may be hidden, but is already there.
3. News: police use hypnosis to help a witness remember details.
- I like this use of hypnosis. This shows one of its really basic characteristics: the focus of concentration. When the police use hypnosis to help a witness remember details of a crime, the technique involves helping the witness clear their mind of distractions so that the memory can ﬂoat to the surface unobstructed.
- A witness cannot remember something that they never heard or saw, but sometimes there is so much debris - like emotion or fear or even other memories - that the detail which the police need just cannot come out. Hypnosis lets the witness exclude all these other bits and pieces so that the wanted detail can emerge.
4. Stage-shows: Joe and Jane Public do embarrassing things to make you laugh (c’mon! surely they knew that they’d be acting like chickens!)
- OK. I admit it. Stage hypnotists and their “victims” are often funny, and they do perform a useful service: that of getting across the message that hypnosis is relatively harmless. Unfortunately they also get across the idea that hypnosis is good only for making people look foolish, and this scares a lot of people away from using it.
- In a clinical environment it takes a few weeks to develop the rapport between a hypnotherapist and a patient to the point where a usefully deep trance can be achieved. I often wonder at how deeply these people on stage are hypnotised. Probably not very.
- When you think about it, each and every one of the stage-hypnotist’s subjects knows full well that they are going to be doing embarrassing things. All of the hypnosis shows that I’ve ever seen work like that, so I expect that even before these people have gone up onto the stage that they have already decided that they are going to allow themselves to be made to look foolish. It’s not much of a step then for the hypnotist to lightly hypnotise them and convince them to do something which they had, in their own minds, agreed to do beforehand.