Control
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Control is the third member of the authority, power, and control triumvirate.
Authority is the right to do something. Power is the ability to do something. And control is the actual doing of it.
For example, owning a car, and having the experience and skill to drive it have no impact on your life if you are sitting in a cafe. Owning the car gives you authority to drive it. Having had the lessons and the practice gives you the skill and ability (i.e., power) to drive it. But without a car, or without actually being in the driver's seat, you have no control over it.
In BDSM it is the actual use of control---how it is used and how it is experienced---which causes the positive and satisfying reactions of many of the practitioners. Merely having the authority, or the skill and power, is not actually satisfying until control is taken and asserted.
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