About me
Yours truly has been on this planet since the late 50's. I live in
Sydney, Australia, and beyond spending just over seven years in a
couple of non-English speaking parts of Europe, I have spent my
whole life here. If my name hasn't given it away yet: I'm male.
I am very curious and hunger to learn new things, and this is
probably one of my defining characteristics.
I love teaching and training, and these are both things that I've
been doing since my late teens. From time to time I run workshops
related to the topics in my writing, and for a number of years I
chaired or co-chaired a regular discussion series on D&s.
I'm more than happy to consider invitations to do workshops or
give talks.
By day I work at a university. I enjoy Monty Python and British
humour. I love science-fiction. I could tinker with computers all
day.
My writing and this site
At times when I am learning something, I like to sit down and
write about it. To do a good job of this, I need both to develop a
good structure, and I need to make sure that what I write is
convincing and doesn't have any holes in it. If I don't fully
understand what I'm writing about, then I simply end up with a
confusing mix of ideas. Thus, putting what I've learned down in
words is how I test myself to see whether I really know what I'm
talking about.
If I do a good job of writing then I can also publish it for other
people to read. In my own small way I like to hope that my ideas
and experiences may be of use to others. Hence this web site.
I write on a number of themes:
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Self-awareness and personal development,
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Hypnosis,
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Mastery & slavery, and
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Dominance & submission.
Self-awareness and personal development
In my own way I have been deliberately searching for ways to
understand myself better ever since I was in my teens. I think
that learning about one's self is important for many reasons, not
least of which is that it allows you to focus on developing the
things about you that are real and genuine, rather than the things
that maybe fear or your ego tell you that you should be doing.
Hypnosis
Hypnosis has been an interest and passion of mine also since my
teens. It's hard (but not impossible) to say exactly what makes up
this fascination, but I have always enjoyed having fine young
women under my influence, and I also love observing and analysing
the behaviour of other humans.
Mastery, slavery, dominance and submission
While I align myself, in a way, with the wonderful world of BDSM,
I find myself often exploring areas of seemingly little interest
to many others also "into" BDSM. The big differences between me
and them seem to be love, sex and pain. I am interested in
authority, power and control, and while sex and pain are useful
and very effective tools, to me they don't represent the goal. To
many others they do.
I firmly believe that in many of us there are deep-seated and
powerful drives towards controlling and being controlled, towards
dominance and submission. In our society it's often difficult for
those of us experiencing these drives to find outlets for them.
BDSM provides some hope, but the diversity of the the BDSM scene
means that a focus on this particular aspect is difficult to find
and maintain when there is so much competition from other aspects
of BDSM.
In particular, the love, sex and pain sides of BDSM are easy,
relatively non-threatening and even socially acceptable. Looking
for the deeper feelings and needs of "straight" dominance and
submission is often, in this environment, very, very difficult.
I write to help myself understand; trying to write helps me put
structure to my ideas and quickly reveals the things I don't know.
I hope that this site will be a resource for those seeking to
understand power and surrender, dominance and submission,
authority, power and control. But more than that it's a place to
air my thoughts and ideas get feedback from others with similar
drives.
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